One of the most important relationships we will ever have, will be the person whom we choose to commit to; the person whom we choose to build a life with, to create a family and future together.
Relationships go through different phases and stages throughout its evolution; from the joys of meeting and falling in love, to the settling in and creating a life together, to the challenges and turbulences and darker questions of, can there be a future together. We can feel whole and deeply connected as well as alone and disconnected within the relationship. A rollercoaster of emotions one might say of joys and despair.
I came across the Imago way of working with couples several years ago. By witnessing dear friends of mine seeking relationship support for their marriage at a time when they were considering that their relationship was coming to an end and that separation was inevitable. What I witnessed, through their process with their therapist, was remarkable, it was not an ending of their relationship, but a deepening and reconnecting of their relationship, they were able to reconnect with the person that had fallen in love with all those years ago, and they were able to nurture the newness that came back into their relationship.
I was so inspired by this that I decided to formalise my learning and understanding of the Imago process by undertaking the training to enhance the therapeutic work that I was already doing with individuals and couples. To be able to assist couples and individuals to reconnect and live a deeper and richer togetherness.
I have also witnessed, when relationships do come to an end, that it is possible to bring an ending and closure to the relationship that is respectful and acknowledging of what was there before, but that is now past. Frequently, when a relationship does come to an end, there are children involved and finding a way to have good clear communications can make a big difference to the feeling of the family relationships going forward.
Throughout the pandemic I have been able to offer counselling sessions online and have found this to be a very effective way of working with couples and individuals. My aim is to continue to offer sessions online as well as in person.
Please get in touch to find out more and/or book an initial session.
An initial session is where you will be able to meet with me, let me know what it is you would like to bring to counselling and to get a feel for the way I work, and if this would be a supportive way forward for you and your relationship.
An initial session for couples is an hour. In the initial session there will be an opportunity for you both to let me know what it is that has brought you to the point on seeking couples counselling and what it is you would like to gain from sessions. You will both have the opportunity to speak with me and I will explain how the Imago process works and offer a brief introduction into how an Imago Dialogue would work.
Eliminating the idea of ‘right and wrong’ and replacing it with a deep sense of curiosity and loving care for yourself and your partner
Raising consciousness around your projections and their impact on your relationships
That all relationships move through Romantic Love into the Power Struggle and have the potential to move to conscious joyful relating
Understanding your childhood wounding. How you adapted to it and the impact it has on your life and relationships
Through the Imago dialogue process we will begin to explore and begin a new way to communicate with each other to be able to be heard and to be able to respond in a supportive and held environment and it is my role to guide you through this process and facilitate greater understanding of what is happening within the relationship and to begin to rebuild connection and clarity.
Sessions after our initial session are between 1hr 30mins and would be weekly or fortnightly. (We will discuss this in the initial session).